The 7-Day Rule

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A Simple, Powerful Way to Decide If an App Is Right for Your Child

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Your son or daughter wants a new app. It looks harmless. It has decent reviews. “All my friends have it.” But you’re not completely sold. Now what?

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At Protect Young Eyes, we’ve shared this simple strategy for years in parent presentations because it consistently works. We call it the 7-Day Rule.

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Before your child downloads a new app, you download it first. Create an account using your child’s age and gender, then use the app for seven full days. Play through the levels. Watch the ads. Test the chat features. Explore it as a curious kid would. After a week, ask yourself one simple question: Do I want my child to experience what I just experienced?

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This matters more than ever. There are more than 3.5 million apps on Android and over 2 million on Apple, and they’re getting smarter by the day. App store ratings aren’t always accurate. In-app ads don’t always match the age rating. Chat features may be hidden behind gameplay. In-app purchases can quietly drain your wallet. Many apps appear innocent on the surface, but after a few days of use, the recommendation engines, social features, and monetization tactics reveal themselves. Seven days give you clarity.

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Items to consider:

• Read app reviews. Those can be from other organizations like Bark or us
• Is there anything that tries to separate kids from adults in the app, like a birthday?
• Glance through the privacy policy, and see what data they collect.
• Is there chat? It should always be disabled for a child. If you can’t, don’t keep the app.
• What about ads? Get rid of them, if you can!
• Are there parental controls, and can you lock them in?
• Are there in-app purchases?
• Is location shared? 

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Ultimately, you know your kid best, and whether or not he or she can handle these features. But you must know about them first, so that you can make an informed decision.

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Even if you ultimately allow the app, the 7-Day Rule gives you something incredibly valuable: shared experience. You can relate to your child and say, “I noticed the ads get a little questionable,” or “Has anyone tried to message you yet?” or “How are you handling the pop-ups asking you to buy upgrades?” Questions like these allow us to be curious in digital spaces, which builds bridges of Digital Trust. It aligns perfectly with our belief that delay is the way, not because we say no to everything, but because we move slowly and intentionally. The right tech at the right time.

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The 7-Day Rule also helps parents resist pressure. Instead of reacting to “But everyone else has it!” or “It’s rated 4.8 stars!” or “It’s educational!” you can calmly respond, “Great. Let’s test it first.” You don’t have to rush. You are the gatekeeper of #OnePreciousChildhood, and sometimes wisdom simply looks like waiting a week. If you’ve found the 7-Day Rule helpful, consider sharing it with another parent. We parent better when we’re together.

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Also see our Instagram and Facebook posts about this topic.

What if I have more questions? How can I stay up to date?

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Two actions you can take!

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1. Subscribe to our tech trends newsletter, the PYE Download. About every 3 weeks, we’ll share what’s new, what the PYE team is up to, and a message from Chris.
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